8 Living. Landers Her advice better than mom's Dear Ann Landers: When you read this, you will probably think it is not possible that such a letter could be written in 1979. I assure you I am for real, and there are probably a few more guys around like me. I am 31 and have never had a girl friend. I am not a hom*osexual.
It's just that I was always shy, never able to get up the nerve to have sex. I see my friends getting married and having families, and I am becoming increasingly discontented. Recently met a 40-year-old widow who has two grown children. She is the first woman I have ever been totally at ease with. have managed to engineer several "casual" meetings, and we always have a terrific time together.
We ran into my aunt two weeks ago and she told my mother. Mother insists the woman is being kind because I look like her eldest son. She also says, "Don't be ridiculous. She's too old to have a baby for you." As a final thrust, Mother added, "'Her former husband was a brilliant man. You probably bore her to death." I have been very, unhappy since I have stopped "running into her." Please advise.
Shy Guy Dear Guy: From what you've told me, I could write a book about -your mother. Start running into that widow again as soon as possible. It sounds as if she was helping you break out of your shell a major achievement. Lucky you! Dear Ann Landers: Christmas is. coming, and I hate the thought of it.
My husband and his brothers and sisters were not born with silver spoons in their mouths it was poker chips. Every Christmas Eve they gather at our place because we have the biggest. house. "Nobody says grace before the meal. They dive in like animals.
(Last year my wrist was actually pierced by a fork.) There is never any civilized conversation. They rush through dinner so they can get to the poker table. (I don't play.) All I hear is, "You're shy a red. Ante up. Put up or shut up.
I've got you skunked." My folks live on the other coast. We spend every Easter with them. It's a deal we made when we married. I hate Christmas more every year. Any advice.
Headache Helen Dear Helen: You made a deal. Stick with it. Learn the game. If you can't beat 'em, at least join 'em. Dear Ann Landers: May I comment on the typist who complained about her boss' handwritten notes "filled with misspelled words and grammatical You told her off but not enough.
Executives should expend their energy making decisions, staying ahead of the competition, addressing themselves to company problems. They shouldn't be bothered with spelling and grammar: A competent secretary-typist1 will make the necessary corrections without altering the sense of the letter. The typist is paid to type letters and return to her boss a perfect, final product. Appreciated In Dallas Dear Many secretaries and typists wrote to say they enjoyed correcting the boss' memos, and even deciphering his illegible handwriting. It was "challenging" and made them feel useful.
1 hope you bosses out there will say a kind word to your secretary-typist today. Think of what your life would be without her! Reception held at clubhouse Merced Women's Clubhouse was the setting for the reception following the wedding of Karen Thompson and Louie Bandoni. The daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Wayne Thompson of Sonora and the son of Mr.
and Mrs. Guido, Bandoni of 1275 W. 25th St. were married at Our Lady of Mercy Catholic Church. Officiating clergyman was Rev.
Ron Swett. Julie, Bandoni and' Paul Toste, Fresno, were maid of honor and best man. Bridesmaids were Melinda Boyd of Modesto, Andrea Thompson of Sonora, Robin fa*gundes of Merced and Marian Guthrie of Makawao, Maui, Hawaii. Groomsmen were Larry Viani, Tom Clendenin and James Cavalla of Mereed, and Brian Donald of Candles were lighted by Eric Thompson and Cheryl Thompson of Sonora. Mr.
and Mrs. Bapdoni, Merced High School and California State University, Fresno, alumni, are now at home in Merced at 1738 E. Alexander Ave. The bridegroom is a self-employed farmer. Ask Dr.
December 10, 1979 Mr. and Mrs. Curtis O'Neal Couple weds Mr. and Mrs. Curtis Edward O'Neal are now at home at 2500 N.
Highway 59 following their wedding at Unity Church of Merced and a honeymoon trip to Southern California. O'Neal, son of Mr. and Mrs. Hiram O'Neal of Pensacola, and the former Vicki Anne Swiggart, daughter of Mr. and Mrs.
Wayne N. Swiggart of 227 W. 20th exchanged marriage promises and rings in the ceremony performed by Rev. Kenneth Brabeau. Sister of the bride Virginia Swiggart was maid of honor and Jeff Baker was best man.
Groomsmen were a son of the bridegroom Randy O'Neal. James Kosirog and Harry Norman. Guests were seated by Jason Swig. gart, a brother of' the bride, and Donald Batten. Fadra Simpson was flower girl, and Alicia Green, candlelighter.
The reception followed at Merced Women's Clubhouse. The bride, a graduate of Merced High School, is employed by Merced School Employees Federal Credit Union. Her husband holds a position at Jorgensen and Company Fire Protection. Two-woman The paintings of Helen Benson and Leah Rowland are now on display in Merced College Administration Building. Both artists are residents of Merced and members of Merced Art League.
Mrs. Benson took up painting as a hobby when her husband retired in 1974. She has' studied at Merced College and with four Merced, Ca. Sun-Star 25 Dear you that 1979. there I that up I met have have have and the like have was her I have me, as was a our Veterans will receive more in payments SAN FRANCISCO Checks reflecting a 9.9 percent increase in Veterans Administration compensation payments will be mailed at the end of December to nearly 82,000 Northern California veterans, VA Regional Office Director H.
H. Villalovos said. Also, about 10,000 surviving spouses and more than 3,000 children of deceased veterans living in the area will receive the 9.9 percent increase in the Dependency Indemnity Compensation payments. The increased payments were authorized by Congress earlier this month and were signed into law by President Carter Nov. 28.
They are retroactive to Oct. 1. A separate adjustment check covering the increased amount due in November and December will be mailed during the. latter part of December, Villalovos said. The new rates mean that a veteran with a service connected disability rated at 10 percent will $48 a month, up from $44: The rate for a 50 percent disability goes from.
$232 monthly to $255, and a veteran with a 100 percent disability will receive $899 monthly, an increase of $80, Additional amounts providing up to a maximum payment of $2,536 a month (up from $2,308) are paid for specific severe disabilities. The new legislation also increases by 9.9 percent the added amounts paid for dependents to veterans rated 30 percent or more disabled. The clothing allowance paid disabled veterans whose use of a prosthetic or orthopedic device wears out or damages clothing was increased from $218 to $240 yearly. art show local teachers The works of Mrs. Rowland were exhibited in Missouri and Kansas before she moved to Merced She has shown painting in galleries in Santa Cruz.
Carmel and Monterey, and had: many paintings. accepted in juried shows throughout the valley. The show closes Feb 1 Separate vacation may be tonic By DR. JOYCE BROTHERS Dear Dr. Brothers: Every winter, my husband and I used to go to Florida' for a week or two in the sun.
I always had to drag him because he and his friends in our town formed a card club and he hates to miss the weekly games. This year, he's enrolled in an adult education course so he has a double pull to remain at home. He tells me to take my vacation alone and 1 honestly: wouldn't mind because I have a sister in Florida who would come to visit. What troubles me is that our neighbors are already starting to gossip because they think separate vacations are such a terrible idea. I trust, my husband, and I'm really sure he's not going to take this opportunity to run off with the first young thing who walks down the street.
How can I convince my neighbors of this I'm SO upset I'm wondering if 1 should call the whole thing off. Dear O.R.: Why worry about convincing your neighbors. You and your band are the only ones whose opinions count as far as this subject is concerned. definitely wouldn't change plans, if I were in your position. The fact that both you and your husband reached this decision indicates that you're mature enough to trust each other and to respect each other's individual needs.
Separate vacations can add new stimulation to marriages and provide an antidote for too much togetherness Couples can become smothered by constantly doing the same thing at the same time: It's far healthier for married couples to recognize that each partner may have different interests and different priorities. Couples who have been faithful to each other for years are not apt to fly apart on binges of infidelity just because each decides to go his or her separate way for a week or two. Go and enjoy. Holiday perms Gimme Curl," $20 Acid balanced perm by Helene Curtis in 4 deep conditioning formulas for every hair type. Multi Curl;" 24.50 Custom formulated perm by Helene Curtis for blow-dry styling.
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